An anonymous bridesmaid says her best friend has turned full bridezilla and is pressuring her to buy a wig for her upcoming wedding — to hide her hair loss from cancer.
The bridesmaid wrote about the upsetting situation in a wedding shaming group on Facebook, and her post has now been shared on Reddit, where it’s earning even more attention.
She explained that since she lost her hair, eyebrows, and eyelashes from chemotherapy, her ‘best friend’ has continually encouraged her to buy a nice wig to cover up her bald head just for her big day.
Insensitive: An anonymous bridesmaid says her best friend has turned full bridezilla and is pressuring her to buy a wig for her upcoming wedding — to hide her hair loss from cancer
‘My best friend is getting married in two weeks. She asked me to be a bridesmaid last October, way before my cancer diagnosis,’ reads a screenshot of the Facebook post by the bridesmaid.
‘Since being diagnosed I have lost my hair, including eyebrows and eyelashes.
‘She keeps making comments about getting a wig for her wedding. On a daily basis I just rock my bald head, and it is not financially feasible or practical for me to purchase a “good” wig just for her wedding.
‘I don’t know how to bring this up to her. I understand she doesn’t want me bald, but it’s who I am right now. She also dropped the bomb that the girl she hired for makeup is going to cost me extra because “she will have to put in extra work on you.”
The bridesmaid feels like this is ‘completely unfair.’
‘At the end of the day I’m going to suck it up and buy a wig,’ she concluded, but added that the quality probably won’t meet the bride’s standards.
She also said she’ll end up paying extra for the makeup artist, ‘but I feel like I’m being punished because I have cancer.
Unsurprisingly, commenters are Reddit have voiced support for the bridesmaid and disgust with the bride’s selfish behavior.
‘That post actually got me mad. Like not internet mad where you just go by it, but more like my blood pressure kinda changed,’ wrote one.
‘I thought you chose your bridal party based on friendship, not how a person looks. This bride is not a friend. I would back out because nobody needs this toxicity in their life,’ wrote another.
‘Just tell her that your terribly sorry your life-threatening condition is inconveniencing her,’ snarked a third.
Sadly enough, this isn’t the first story about a wig-pushing bridezilla to go viral this summer.
In August, a cancer survivor complained on Reddit about her friend, the bride — who recently took her out to ‘celebrate’ her remission but included a surprise stop at a wig store.
For the sake of the story, the Redditor called the bride ‘Karen,’ and explained that she got engaged a year and a half ago and immediately asked her to be a bridesmaid.
Karen was maid of honor at her own wedding.
‘To make a long story short, I got some real bad news in the past year and had to undergo radiation and chemotherapy,’ she wrote, adding that the whole thing has been ‘traumatic.’
‘My hair fell out and I am recovering but my hair is still very short,’ she said.
Through this time, the Redditor has been ‘very active in the survivor community,’ fundraising and speaking out publicly. Karen, a nurse, had been ‘super supportive’ — until just before her wedding.
Weeks before the wedding, Karen said she wanted to take the bridesmaid out to ‘celebrate my remission and end of treatment’ and said she ‘had a special surprise.’
Cruel: The bridesmaid also said the bride told her that her wedding day makeup will cost more (stock image)
‘We go to a spa which was super nice and enjoy some skin treatments, massages, and general pampering.
‘At the end of the day she takes me to a special hair salon which specializes in high quality wigs. I am a little taken aback by this because Karen knows that a lot of the work I have been involves psychological treatment in cancer patients and avoiding the shame associated with hair loss for instance.’
She added later: ‘I don’t have any problem with people wearing wigs, I just would feel like a hypocrite counseling others and then putting on a wig just to look good for other peoples pictures.
‘I feel confident with my look now and felt strange with the wigs on. Just didn’t feel like me.’
Still, she politely went through with the appointment and tried on wigs, despite being ‘quite upset’ about the whole thing.
When Karen offered to buy her one, she declined.
Days later, Karen called her and said she can no longer be in the bridal party, blaming the minister and saying he insisted there were too many people.
‘This completely floors me because basically I am her number 2 girl after her sister (who she barely gets a long with),’ she wrote.
‘I call around and it although some of the other bridesmaids are reluctant to tell me anything hint at the fact that Karen was worried about how the pictures are going to look with someone with a bald head.’
When she spoke to the bride again, she insisted ‘it was definitely not because of my hair but because the minister was adamant that six [bridesmaids] was too many.’
The bride also went on to accuse the Redditor of being an uninvolved friend through the past year — when she was battling cancer.
‘She went on to say that I have been really distant the past year and that I didn’t seem interested in helping her with the wedding which is why she decided to select me to be off the wedding party. She said she helped me a lot and that I’m not returning the favor by being a team player.
‘She said that she knows I am going through a lot but that my personality “has changed” and that I’m not the friend she knows from childhood.’
What’s more, the bride mentioned the wig again, which seemed to indicate that the Redditor could rejoin the wedding party if she’d just change her mind.
The Redditor was so upset that she is ultimately decided to skip the wedding.
‘I did tell her that I was upset with her and that I hope one day she can look back and see that she was being selfish. Sadly she told me more or less that I was being selfish,’ she said.