- Sabrina Zohar, 33, is a dating coach who has revealed why you shouldn’t text
- The California-based expert recommended avoiding consistent contact
- She explained that not frequently texting your crush would improve your life
A dating expert has revealed why you shouldn’t constantly text your crush at the beginning stages of dating – especially if you want to show them that you’re the one.
Most recently, the California-based love specialist detailed why you should avoid exchanging messages back and forth all day with your potential partner.
In a viral clip, which has so far amassed more than 390,000 views, the host of dating podcast, Do The Work, noted that you should let go of your anxiety around texting and live your own life to keep the right person around instead of communicating without ‘intention.’
She captioned the video: ‘Texting and control in dating.’
The love specialist noted that anxious people often attempt to stay in contact all day to control their relationship.
At the beginning of the video, Sabrina said: ‘Stop trying to text in order to gain control of a situation.’
She added: ‘I see this every f***ing day.’
Although Sabrina noted she understood why people were anxious at the early stages of dating, constant communication wouldn’t solve the problem.
She explained that when one partner doesn’t text the other, the one who was left on read would begin to play mind games and fire off messages so they didn’t ‘forget’ about them.
‘What you’re actually trying to do is your trying to control the situation,’ the dating expert said.
‘Dating means there are no guarantees, and it takes two willing f***ing people, it takes two participants.’
Sabrina emphasized that texting should always be intentional rather than a routine that you fell into.
‘What’s happening is if you’re trying to text in order to gain control like, “Well I haven’t heard from him in three days so I’m going to text him so that I can start the conversation,”‘ she explained.
‘That’s fine if you actually have something to say.’
The love coach said intentionally communicating was ‘very different’ than messaging your crush because you ‘[wanted] them to respond’ or because you think they would ‘forget’ about you.
‘Part of dating with intention means interacting with intention, texting with intention, all of the above,’ she said.
‘So if you don’t actually have something to say, you don’t have something of depth to offer to a conversation or something to start a conversation with that makes sense, then please stop using texting as a means of trying to control the situation.
‘All it’s going to do is blow up in your face when somebody doesn’t act in the same way that you want because you can’t control other people, you can only control yourself.’
Viewers flooded the comments section and praised the dating coach for her advice.
One person wrote: ‘I appreciate every post of yours so much. I bring you up in therapy and dig deep!’
Someone else commented: ‘Absolutely! If they don’t respond, then walk away.’
Another user wrote: ‘I really needed this, thank you!’
‘I love this,’ a fourth user added.