Harry Hamlin, 71, reveals secret to his 25 year marriage to Housewives star Lisa Rinna, 59: ‘We listen to each other, and we’re not clingy’
The actor, 71, recently opened up about what he has learned in his lasting relationship with the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reality star, 59, and from previous marriages.
Last August, the couple – who tied the knot in 1997 – toasted to their silver anniversary with a throwback photo of the day they wed.
Their lasting marriage: Harry Hamlin, 71, revealed his secret to maintaining a healthy marriage with his wife, Lisa Rinna, 59, after they celebrated 25 years of marriage last year
The Clash of the Titans actor proposed to the Days of Our Lives actress that year – about five years after they met in 1992.
In an exclusive interview with People, the L.A. Law alum said: ‘”Happy wife, happy life” really is my mantra.’
He added, ‘And it works.’
‘We listen to each other, and we’re not clingy. She does what she wants, so I can do what I want.’
25th wedding anniversary: Last August, the couple – who tied the knot in 1997 – toasted to their silver anniversary with a throwback photo of the day they wed
He explained that commitment is important: ‘I’m different from a lot of men in my generation because I did not play the field.
‘The number of people with whom I’ve been intimate with is not very many,’ he continued. ‘I marry them, mostly.’
Previously, he was married to Laura Johnson from 1985 to 1989 and Nicollette Sheridan from 1991 to 1992.
The secret? The L.A. Law alum said, ‘”Happy wife, happy life” really is my mantra; seen in 1993
Hamlin is also a father to 42-year-old son Dimitri with former girlfriend Ursula Andress.
He shared the lessons he learned from his previous marriages – as well has his degree in psychology – that he feels has benefited his marriage today.
‘Probably the first couple [of marriages] were me trying to work stuff out because they had characteristics that were similar to my mother,’ he observed.
‘And it works’: He said about his marriage which blessed him with two daughters – Delilah , 24, and Amelia , 21. ‘We listen to each other, and we’re not clingy. She does what she wants, so I can do what I want.’
Hamlin graduated from Yale University with dual Bachelor’s degrees in drama and psychology in 1974.
(He also graduated from the American Conservatory Theater with a Master of Fine Arts degree in acting in 1976.)
He referred to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, a handbook used by healthcare professionals around the world: ‘Having a degree in psychology allows me to go back and research from this book, which is very helpful when you’re trying to figure out who the f*** you are.’
He explained that he had to heal from past experiences and change his habits.
Opposites attract: Nearly a year ago, Hamlin also told People and revealed: ‘[The secret is] being diametrically opposite.’
‘I think a lot of people end up trying to work s*** out with their lovers,’ he added.
‘Breaking the cycle is not easy,’ he said. ‘Having not married my mother the third time, then comes the challenge: How do you make that friendship and relationship work both romantically and platonically?’
Nearly a year ago, Hamlin also told People and revealed: ‘[The secret is] being diametrically opposite.
‘I like going up to the mountains, and her idea of camping is anything below the 10th floor of the Four Seasons,’ he said.
Different interests: ‘I like going up to the mountains, and her idea of camping is anything below the 10th floor of the Four Seasons,’ he said