A ‘geriatric’ mother has revealed how she was judged for her decision to have a baby in her 40’s – and she’s worried people will do the same to Tana Ramsay.
Gordon and Tana Ramsay became parents again last week, after welcoming their sixth child into the world, Jesse James Ramsay.
At 57 and 49, the pair kept Tana’s latest pregnancy a secret – the average mother in the UK is 30 years old, making Tana almost 20 years older.
While she’s been inundated with support, there have also been negative remarks made about her age, something that Lucy Baker from Lincolnshire, is sadly familiar with.
She told Metro that when she had a baby at 43, she was ‘subjected to negativity’ because of her age and insists ‘this age-bashing has to stop’.
The mother had her third child in her 40s, with her husband Dan, 39 – the couple were met with criticism and she noticed the midwife wrote down ‘older mother’ in her notes.
She aims to be ‘a source of inspiration for mothers who find themselves in the later stages of motherhood and embracing midlife’ – she shares her story to connect with others.
‘Risk’ and ‘geriatric’ were two words that cropped up during her pregnancy journey, and even her friends asked if she got pregnant by accident.
Lucy said: ‘We need to remember, collectively, that there are many different reasons for women having babies later in life, and sometimes there has been a lot of sadness to get to the point of bringing your baby home.
‘So let’s park the idea that women are too old and let’s champion new mums regardless of age.’
Back in September, speaking to Nick Grimshaw and Angela Hartnett on the Dish podcast, Gordon Ramsay confessed he was reluctant to have another child.
He said: ‘It’s like going to school, going out for dinner in two buses. And secondly, I’m going to be the oldest f***er at school. [It’s like children will be asking] “who’s your grandad?”.’
The positive mother says her one piece of advice to Gordon and Tana would be to question those who judge them by asking ‘why do you care about my age so much?’
She added that it’s ‘nobody’s business’ and it’s not ‘wrong’ or ‘bad’.
Despite experiencing some negative comments from others, aged 47 now and with her little boy starting school in September, Lucy loves being an older mum and has never felt more confident in herself.
She said: ‘There are many positives to having a baby in my 40s.
‘I feel I look after myself a lot now, exercising, sleeping and making time for self-care.
‘I also feel that I have more clarity and confidence, which really helps.’
Lucy speaking out about diversity in pregnancy comes after the shocking news that an Alabama woman who was born with two uteruses is now pregnant in both of them, in a one-in-a-million medical anomaly.
Kelsey Hatcher, 32, was born with the condition uterine didelphys, also known as double uterus.
This allowed her to develop two uteruses and two cervixes – the canal that connects the uterus to the vagina – which experts believe occurs in just three per 1,000 women.
She is now expecting twin girls who are developing normally – because they are in two different uteruses, they could be born hours, days, or even weeks apart.