It’s a boy! Expectant parents reveal their sadness and disappointment at the gender of their child

Oh, boy! Parents confess to being disappointed with the sex of their baby – from a man who ‘thinks fathers should have sons’ to a woman who isn’t ‘having the girl of her dreams’

  • Disappointed parents of unborn children have shared their stories on Whisper
  • All were upset by the gender of their unborn child and wanted something else
  • Many said they felt ashamed and couldn’t tell people about their true feelings 
  • One asked for ‘good things’ about a girl, to help her feel better about having one 

For most expectant parents, finding out the sex of your unborn baby is a a precious and exciting moment. But what happens when the sex isn’t what you want?

People from around the world have taken to the anonymous US secret-sharing app Whisper to reveal their sadness about having a child of a certain sex. 

One expectant parent even said they were so sad they were having a girl, they didn’t know if they would ever be able to ‘care for her’. 

Another said no one knew how sad she was feeling and that she felt ‘awful’ with herself for not wanting the baby to be the sex it was. 

A third said they were initially disappointed by the idea of having a son, but now they had got used to the idea, while one man said he needed a son – and not a daughter – as he was male.  

Disappointing news: Parents used the anonymity of Whisper to reveal how they truly felt about the gender of their unborn child. This person from Chicago, Illinois, really wanted a girl

Disappointing news: Parents used the anonymity of Whisper to reveal how they truly felt about the gender of their unborn child. This person from Chicago, Illinois, really wanted a girl

A man needs a son: This father from Lincoln, England, thought that a daughter wouldn't suit him as he was a man who needed a boy

A man needs a son: This father from Lincoln, England, thought that a daughter wouldn’t suit him as he was a man who needed a boy

Getting used to it: This parent was initially disappointed at the news she having a boy but then she got used to the idea

Getting used to it: This parent was initially disappointed at the news she having a boy but then she got used to the idea

Hiding true feelings: This person from Dallas, Texas, said they felt awful about herself and that no one knew how sad she was that she was having a girl

Hiding true feelings: This person from Dallas, Texas, said they felt awful about herself and that no one knew how sad she was that she was having a girl 

Baby blues: This parent from Portland, Oregon, said she could not get over her sadness about carrying a boy instead of a girl she dreamed of

Baby blues: This parent from Portland, Oregon, said she could not get over her sadness about carrying a boy instead of a girl she dreamed of 

Can I love her? This parent from Dallas, Texas, was so sad she was having a girl, she wondered whether she could actually love her

Can I love her? This parent from Dallas, Texas, was so sad she was having a girl, she wondered whether she could actually love her 

It will all work out: This mother sought advice on how to get her husband to accept they were having a girl

It will all work out: This mother sought advice on how to get her husband to accept they were having a girl 

Good things about girls? This parent was so sad about having a girl she asked for help from the Whisper community to list good things about them

Good things about girls? This parent was so sad about having a girl she asked for help from the Whisper community to list good things about them 

Second child: This parent had already had a boy and wanted a girl. She was sad that she was having another boy

Second child: This parent had already had a boy and wanted a girl. She was sad that she was having another boy

Tears of sadness not joy: This parent had to pretend she was crying because she was emotional, actually she was sad about her baby's gender

Tears of sadness not joy: This parent had to pretend she was crying because she was emotional, actually she was sad about her baby’s gender 

Tough talk: This parent from Frickenhausen, Germany, was so distressed by the thought of having a girl, she questioned whether she could ever care for her

Tough talk: This parent from Frickenhausen, Germany, was so distressed by the thought of having a girl, she questioned whether she could ever care for her

Facing the truth: This parent from Lubbock, Texas, simply said they really wanted a boy and were very sad they were having a girl

Facing the truth: This parent from Lubbock, Texas, simply said they really wanted a boy and were very sad they were having a girl 

Manning up to reality: This parent from New York, New York, didn't want to deal with the responsibility of bringing a child into the world, let alone a girl

Manning up to reality: This parent from New York, New York, didn’t want to deal with the responsibility of bringing a child into the world, let alone a girl  

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