Mother claims seven-year-old daughter wasn’t allowed to eat LUNCH at school for breaking dress code

‘Your solution is to starve and shame her?’: Mother claims her seven-year-old daughter wasn’t allowed to eat LUNCH at school for breaking the dress code by wearing a tank top

  • The woman, named Harlie, from Nashville, Tennessee, posted a video of her young daughter describing the incident to TikTok, and it quickly went viral
  • In the video, the youngster claimed she was told her shirt – a floral tank top with spaghetti straps – was ‘inappropriate’ by a teacher during lunch time
  • The little girl, whose name was hidden for privacy reasons, explained to her mom that she was asked to leave the cafeteria and head to the nurse
  • But the seven-year-old said the nurse was busy making ‘calls’ when she arrived, so she had to wait a while in the office and was left with no time to eat her food 
  • Harlie, outraged by the ordeal, slammed the institution – which was not named – for ‘starving and shaming’ her daughter over the outfit
  • She also said she didn’t want her daughter to attend a school where teachers are ‘distracted by a seven-year-old’s shoulders’ and called the dress code ‘sexist’

A mother has claimed that her seven-year-old daughter wasn’t allowed to eat lunch at school because she broke dress code by wearing a tank top.

The woman, named Harlie, from Nashville, Tennessee, posted a video of her young daughter, whose name has been kept hidden for privacy reasons, describing the incident to TikTok, and it quickly went viral – leaving many people on the web angered at how the institution handled the situation.

In the TikTok, the youngster claimed she was told her shirt – a floral tank top with spaghetti straps – was ‘inappropriate’ by a teacher during lunch time, and was asked to leave the cafeteria and head to the nurse. 

But the seven-year-old said the nurse was busy making ‘calls’ when she arrived, so she had to wait a while in the office and was left with no time to eat her food.

A mother has claimed that her seven-year-old daughter wasn't allowed to eat lunch at school because she broke dress code by wearing a tank top

A mother has claimed that her seven-year-old daughter wasn’t allowed to eat lunch at school because she broke dress code by wearing a tank top

The woman, named Harlie, from Nashville, Tennessee, posted a video of her young daughter, whose name has been kept hidden for privacy reasons, describing the incident to TikTok

The woman, named Harlie, from Nashville, Tennessee, posted a video of her young daughter, whose name has been kept hidden for privacy reasons, describing the incident to TikTok

In the TikTok, the youngster claimed she was told her shirt - a floral tank top with spaghetti straps (seen) - was 'inappropriate' by a teacher during lunch time

In the TikTok, the youngster claimed she was told her shirt – a floral tank top with spaghetti straps (seen) – was ‘inappropriate’ by a teacher during lunch time

Harlie – outraged by the ordeal – slammed the school for ‘starving and shaming’ her daughter over the outfit, and said she didn’t want her daughter to attend a school where teachers are ‘distracted by a seven-year-old’s shoulders.’

‘My teachers said my straps were inappropriate,’ the seven-year-old, who wasn’t shown on camera, could be heard telling Harlie in the clip. 

The little girl said was asked to leave the cafeteria and head to the nurse. But the seven-year-old added that the nurse was busy making 'calls' when she arrived, so she had to wait a while in the office and was left with no time to eat her food

The little girl said was asked to leave the cafeteria and head to the nurse. But the seven-year-old added that the nurse was busy making ‘calls’ when she arrived, so she had to wait a while in the office and was left with no time to eat her food

‘They said your straps were inappropriate on your shirt? So they kicked you out at lunch? Did you get to finish your lunch?’ she asked her daughter. 

‘Nope, I didn’t even get to finish one bag of Cheetos. I had to go to the nurses office and she’s always on calls and stuff, so it takes her… I missed half of lunch.’

In the TikTok, Harlie told her daughter to ‘continue to wear whatever she thinks is cute’ and ‘whatever she feels confident in.’ 

‘Here’s the thing, you get to choose what goes on your body. Next time that happens, I want you to tell your teacher to call me instead,’ she said.

‘If we break dress code then I will come pick you up. Because it’s your body. I will deal with the rest of the repercussions.

‘You decide what you’re gonna wear, and I will make sure that you’re being respected. 

Harlie slammed the school for 'starving and shaming' her daughter, and said she didn't want her to attend a school where teachers are 'distracted by a seven-year-old's shoulders'

Harlie slammed the school for 'starving and shaming' her daughter, and said she didn't want her to attend a school where teachers are 'distracted by a seven-year-old's shoulders'

Harlie slammed the school for ‘starving and shaming’ her daughter, and said she didn’t want her to attend a school where teachers are ‘distracted by a seven-year-old’s shoulders’

Harlie said the school's handbook does state that spaghetti straps are not allowed, explaining that while she did break the dress code, she was not pleased with the way it was handled

Harlie said the school’s handbook does state that spaghetti straps are not allowed, explaining that while she did break the dress code, she was not pleased with the way it was handled

‘And if somebody tries to tell you what you’re doing is inappropriate, you don’t let them do that. You tell them to call me instead. That’s not their job to talk to you like that.’

‘Today, my first grader’s school prioritized dress coding her over feeding her. Literally WHY?’ she captioned the TikTok, which has now been viewed more than 889,000 times. 

In a follow-up video, Harlie showed off the top that was deemed ‘inappropriate’ by the school. It was a white tank top covered in flowers.

Harlie noted that the school’s handbook does state that spaghetti straps are not allowed, explaining that while her daughter did indeed break the dress code with the shirt, she was not pleased with the way that it was handled.

‘We broke the dress code, yes, 100 per cent,’ she admitted. ‘My problem isn’t the dress code, it’s how [the school] chose to enforce it with her.

‘If a teacher is too distracted by a seven-year-old’s shoulders to continue teaching, I do not want her in that classroom. 

‘And if their solution is to starve her and shame her in front of her friends, yeah, I’m gonna come pick her up. I’m not raising a good student or good worker, I’m raising a good person.’

In a third TikTok, Harlie claimed that she met with the school to try to find a ‘solution that was better for everybody in the future,’ but was ‘disappointed’ when officials ‘got combative instead.’ The name of school has not been revealed.

In a third TikTok, Harlie claimed that she met with the school to try to find a 'solution that was better for everybody in the future,' but was 'disappointed' when officials 'got combative'

In a third TikTok, Harlie claimed that she met with the school to try to find a ‘solution that was better for everybody in the future,’ but was ‘disappointed’ when officials ‘got combative’

When one of her followers told Harlie it was 'illegal' for the school to 'refuse to give a student time to eat lunch,' she revealed that she was currently talking to a lawyer about the situation

When one of her followers told Harlie it was 'illegal' for the school to 'refuse to give a student time to eat lunch,' she revealed that she was currently talking to a lawyer about the situation

When one of her followers told Harlie it was ‘illegal’ for the school to ‘refuse to give a student time to eat lunch,’ she revealed that she was currently talking to a lawyer about the situation

‘They tried to tell me [my daughter] was lying about pulled out of lunch, but another teacher said she was pulled out of lunch,’ she explained.

‘And then they tried to lie about how long she was out of lunch and blamed her for walking too slow instead of the nurse being on calls. But I believe my kid. I do, I believe her. She doesn’t lie to me about stuff.’

When one of her followers told Harlie it was ‘illegal’ for the school to ‘refuse to give a student time to eat lunch regardless of dress code being broken or not,’ she revealed that she was currently talking to a lawyer about the situation.

‘I have a very personal strong bias against dress codes,’ she added. ‘I think they are wrong, I think they are sexist. 

‘I think they discriminate against other religions and other nationalities and other races. I hate them, and I didn’t want my personal bias to the dress code getting in the way or inflating the anger that I had about her not getting fed at school. 

‘I posted the video expecting to hear both sides of the argument, and instead, 600,000 of you showed up [for my daughter]. 

‘I don’t think I saw a single comment about me overreacting. Not only did I get validation, but I got advice, so thank you. It really felt like I wasn’t alone making this choice for her.’

Harlie concluded: ‘If you live in Tennessee and know of a good school, let me know, because we’re done.’

Many people took to the comment section to share their thoughts on the incident, and they bashed the school for not allowing the seven-year-old to eat

Many people took to the comment section to share their thoughts on the incident, and they bashed the school for not allowing the seven-year-old to eat

Many people took to the comment section to share their thoughts on the incident, and they bashed the school for not allowing the seven-year-old to eat.

‘They let her get all the way to lunch wearing what she was wearing, they could’ve at least let her finish her lunch,’ wrote one person.

‘So they didn’t know the straps were inappropriate until she was sitting down to eat lunch?’ asked someone else. ‘Why didn’t they say something as soon as she walked in?’

‘Dress codes are bad enough, but they really need to change their language about them. “Inappropriate” is ironically an inappropriate word,’ said another user.

‘The whole dress code thing is ridiculous and always has been,’ read a fourth comment, while a fifth said, ‘The fact that they consider it “inappropriate” means they’re sexualizing a SEVEN YEAR OLD.’

‘She’s not wearing anything “inappropriate,” they’re just having inappropriate thoughts,’ insisted a different commenter.’

‘This makes me want to cry that she didn’t get to eat lunch. Heartbreaking. Not OK,’ agreed another person. 

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