Neighbor sends family letter complaining about ‘noisy’ children playing in their Park Slope garden

EXCLUSIVE: ‘Please control your daughters’: Anonymous neighbor sends family letter complaining about their ‘noisy’ children playing in their Park Slope garden and demands the parents also refrain from ‘whoops and shouts of encouragement’

  • The letter appeared on the Park Slope Moms’ Facebook page this month
  • In it, an anonymous neighbor of a family consisting of two daughters ages 2 and 4, laments the parents’ ‘shouts of encouragements’ toward their children
  • The writer also tells the parents to keep the volume of their own conversations with other adults in the area to a minimum
  • The mother said that she immediately felt guilty after reading the letter but after showing it to others, she realized her family was being unfairly singled out
  • Do you know who the mysterious complaining Park Slope neighbor is? Let us know: [email protected] 

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A Park Slope writer made their grievances against a neighbors’ young daughters and their encouraging parents known in an anonymous letter.

The letter appeared on the Park Slope Moms’ Facebook page this month. 

It begins with the neighbor identifying themselves, in a way: ‘Dear neighbors, I am an editor and writer who lives across the backyard fences from you. I do most of my work in my garden. In good weather, I am out here most days for many hours.’

The writer goes on to say that they have lived in affluent Park Slope, consistently voted as one of the best neighborhoods in New York to raise children, for 30 years. They say that aside from occasional parties, it has been quiet. 

The letter continues: ‘On these brownstone blocks, each of us lives within 50 feet of a dozen neighbors. It’s been generally understood by most folks on this block that we owe our neighbors consideration in how we conduct ourselves when we are in our yards. Keeping intrusive sources of noise to a minimum is one way we show one another mutual respect.’

Park Slope is one of the most exclusive neighborhoods in New York with the average household income for renters being $129,570 and for homeowners its a whopping $236,720.  

The infamous letter that was posted on the Park Slope Moms Facebook page in July 2022. The letter writer remains anonymous

The infamous letter that was posted on the Park Slope Moms Facebook page in July 2022. The letter writer remains anonymous

Affluent Park Slope is regularly referred to as one of the safest places to raise children in New York City

Affluent Park Slope is regularly referred to as one of the safest places to raise children in New York City

The average household income for renters in Park Slope for renters is $129,570 and for homeowners its a whopping $236,720

The average household income for renters in Park Slope for renters is $129,570 and for homeowners its a whopping $236,720

The letter quickly becomes pointed: ‘You may not have noticed, but quite often you are the only household within earshot making a considerable amount of noise outside.’

The neighbor helpfully puts forward their suggestions for ways in which the family can be more mindful of those who live near by, saying: ‘When you are in your backyard, please be aware how easily your voices carry into your neighbors’ yards.’ 

Another suggestion: ‘Parents, please lower your voices when you are playing outside with your children. I appreciate that you want to support your kids in all they do, but please refrain from whoops and shouts of encouragement.’ 

The parents are also advised to watch their own conversation volume levels. The neighbor writes: ‘Please keep loud conversations with neighbors across the fences to a minimum.’

The complainant begins with a more thoughtful note towards the end: ‘I understand that kids need to be kids, but please control your daughters from shouting and screaming. There are other choices you can make to channel you children’s naturally boisterous energy without the sound of it filling the backyards off others.’

It goes on: ‘Take them outside, go for a stroll, or take them to the playground or the park where they can be as uninhibited as they like.’

The piece ends with a celebration of living in Park Slope: ‘Your family is certainly entitled to enjoy your garden; it is one of the blessings of living in Park Slope. Let’s all rededicate ourselves by doing that in a way that balances our own wishes with those of our neighbors.’ 

It concludes: ‘While noise is an unavoidable aspect of urban life, I hope all of us can agree that our home is our personal refuge in the city, and that we’re all entitled to its quiet enjoyment. Respectfully, your neighbors.’  

The mother also said that she felt guilty immediately after reading the letter but after sharing it with other neighbors, they expressed their outrage and now she feels conflicted

The mother also said that she felt guilty immediately after reading the letter but after sharing it with other neighbors, they expressed their outrage and now she feels conflicted

On the Park Slope Moms Facebook page, the letter has become a huge source of anger

On the Park Slope Moms Facebook page, the letter has become a huge source of anger

Many were outraged that the letter writer was angry about the parents shouting words of encouragement to their children

Many were outraged that the letter writer was angry about the parents shouting words of encouragement to their children

The mother, who identified her children as being ages 2 and 4, who posted a photo of the letter in the Facebook group maintained that she does yell at her children to behave to the extent that she feels bad about it. The mom wrote: ‘They’re telling me to stop loudly praising them. Which kind of was the boost I needed today.’

She joked: ‘I have to shout to get them stop from hurting themselves or killing each other.’ She then asks other members of the group weigh in on the issue. 

The mother also said that she felt guilty immediately after reading the letter but after sharing it with other neighbors, they expressed their outrage and now she feels conflicted. She also posted it on her Instagram Story and received at least 100 messages of support.  

Unsurprisingly, the message did not go well when it was posted on the Park Slope Moms page. One mother wrote: ‘It’s a nice written letter but respectfully, screw them.’ That mom went on to say that the complaining neighbor could always choose to work elsewhere.

Another person wrote: ‘F**k them and continue whooping and shouting words of encouragement.’

One mother noted that the complainant did not attach their name to the letter saying: ‘How rude.’ She also said: ‘Go buy your kids some musical instruments invite the neighbors in for band practice.’ 

Despite being voted one of the best neighborhoods for families, the New York Post reported in August 2021 that one elementary school in the area lost one third of their enrollment due to the Covid-19 pandemic. 

Park Slope parents even inspired a Buzzfeed listicle titled: ‘The 20 Most Annoying Things About Being a Park Slope Parent’ as well as a New Yorker humor feature named: ‘Park Slope Parents’ Fight Club.’ 

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