‘PassportBro’: American men detail attempts to find wife abroad

  • ‘Passport Bros’ refer to men in an online community who travel overseas to find love because they believe foreign women are more conservative and traditional
  • Common destinations for Passport Bros to live include Latin America, Asia and Eastern Europe
  • Passport Bro Austin Abeyta aka Digital Bromad says US women are ‘unapproachable’ and less humble than those overseas 

American men using TikTok are sharing their attempts to find a wife abroad, as they detail their struggle to keep up with the ‘impossible standards’ of US women.

The men are known as ‘Passport Bros’, a viral movement which refers to men who travel overseas to find a more ‘traditional’.

The movement has exploded in popularity, with the hashtag commanding more than 114.5 million views.

The rise has been linked to the working from home culture, which emerged during the pandemic, and which has allowed men to relocate to countries where they feel they might be more lucky in love.

Popular destinations for Passport Bros include Latin America, Asia and Eastern Europe.

Increasing numbers of American men are joining the Passport Bros movement, a community of Western men who travel overseas to find romantic partners who they believe are more likely to be traditional

Passport Bros often believe stereotypes about women from the likes of South East Asia, Eastern Europe and Latin America being more conservative

The decision to move abroad to find a wife often relies on stereotypes about foreign women, including that they are more likely to be submissive or prioritize family, according to those involved in the movement.

One man, using the TikTok name PassportBros.Org talks about how he chooses to date women in Africa as, ‘there is no helping women that believe in feminism hardcore’ because they, ‘really don’t want a man’.

‘If they did, they would submit,’ he adds.

Another says that foreign women are ‘easier to talk to, easier to be around with’ because there is ‘no tension between men and women overseas’.

Dr. James Braham, an education expert and researcher analyzing conceptual foundations of biology, told Fox News: ‘Many passport bros express a sense of disconnection from the dating culture in their home country, which they perceive as being influenced by elements they find unappealing, such as excessive feminism, materialism, and a perceived lack of commitment and loyalty in relationships.’

He explained that Southeast Asian countries are often seen as places where women are raised with a strong sense of respect and commitment to family, while Eastern European women are perceived as embracing traditional gender roles.

Meanwhile, Latin America is seen as a place where ‘warmth, passion, and family values’ are prevalent.

The movement has seen an uptick since Covid-19 and the emergence of digital nomads.

The Passport Bros trend has been noted on dating site OKCupid which has seen a 50 per cent increase in cross-border connections,

 Three years after the pandemic, more than a third of people with remote jobs are now working from home, according to a new Pew Research Center.

While by 2025, an estimated 32.6 million Americans will be working remotely, equivalent to more than a fifth of workforce, according to Upwork.

And with US dollars stretching further in many overseas countries, scores of men are choosing  

One member of the movement, Austin Abeyta, known as Digital Bromad on TikTok, explains how his relocation to Colombia has afforded him a much higher quality life.

He claims that America is ‘the worst place in the world to date if you are a man’ because salaries do not stretch as far as in the US, which he believes impacts his chances with the opposite sex.  

Abeyta explains that a ‘conflict of genders’ in the US is making women ‘much less approachable’ and that it is ‘so much easier to get girls overseas’.

The Passport Bros trend has been noted on dating site OKCupid which has seen a 50 per cent increase in cross-border connections, while 10 per cent more of users were in interracial relationships.

While on Tinder, 16 per cent of users are talking to people overseas. In 2020, the year the pandemic broke out, there was a seven fold increase in people using the app’s passport feature.

The movement has been linked to a 2011 film about black men leaving the US to find love abroad after becoming frustrated with the racism they face at home, but Suzannah Weiss, a relationship coach and AASECT-certified sex educator said it 'also seems that some of it is based on negative perceptions of U.S. Black women'

 A sense of adventure following months of lockdowns could also be behind many US men’s decision to move abroad.

Hundreds of posts under the Passport Bros hashtag talk about the opportunity to experience a new culture through dating in a different country.

However, posts on Reddit forums from men curious to join the movement suggest their motivation may be more based on insecurity and a belief that foreign women are easier to approach.

One 28-year-old poster ‘broken by so many rejections’, said US women’s standards are ‘insane’.

He asked: ‘Recently I’ve been hearing about passport bros in order to look for a wife across the seas. And I’ve been hearing stories that sound like a fantasy. Nobody or relationship is perfect, but like I can approach women without worrying?’

The movements origins has also been attributed by the Salt Lake Tribune to a 2011 film by Al Greeze called ‘Frustrated’, which explored a growing number of black men who travel abroad for love after becoming fed up with racism they receive at home in the US.

As one TikTok user, PassportBrotherhood, says in his video: ‘They [foreign women] are just better. 

‘The way you get treated overseas, especially as a black man, you get treated with respect. They actually got love for us.’

Many Passport Bros cite cheaper living costs as a reason for their move overseas as they believe having increased relative wealth will help with their chances of finding a partner

But Suzannah Weiss, a relationship coach and AASECT-certified sex educator, told Fox News that it ‘also seems that some of it is based on negative perceptions of U.S. Black women.’

‘As women in the U.S. become more outspoken and emboldened to ask for what they want, some men feel that they’d prefer women in other countries who will be more unconditionally devoted to them,’ she said.

She also pointed out that the movement has been linked to sex tourism, with not all members of the community moving to find relationships. 


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