Reddit AITA: New mum furious after husband and mother-in-law eat her dinner

Mum leaves home with her newborn after her husband and mother-in-law ate her dinner while she breastfed in another room – so who is in the wrong?

  • A husband and mother-in-law have been roasted for eating a new mum’s dinner 
  • The woman and her five-week-old moved to her mother’s house after the event
  • The mum’s mother-in-law had been ‘camping’ in their living room since the birth
  • Reddit users have branded her husband a ‘man-child’ and a ‘mummy’s boy’

An outraged mum is living away from home after her husband and mother-in-law ate her dinner while she breastfed her five-week-old in another room.

Venting her frustration on Reddit, the new mum, 32, said her mother-in-law had moved into the home after the birth of her child to ‘help out’ and had been nothing but trouble.

One night the pair didn’t save the mum any food because she didn’t ‘show up for dinner’ on time due to breastfeeding – a move that tipped the weary parent over the edge’ and saw her drive off with the baby to her own mother’s home.

An outraged mum is living away from home after her husband and mother-in-law ate her dinner while she breastfed her five-week-old in another room

An outraged mum is living away from home after her husband and mother-in-law ate her dinner while she breastfed her five-week-old in another room 

‘My husband’s mum has been camping in the living room ever since and inviting people over and making a mess in the house. I said nothing because if I open my mouth, my husband would start scolding me saying his mum is there to help and I should be grateful,’ the frustrated wife wrote. 

‘I handle feeding, diaper changes, cleaning, wiping. I only get a few hours sleep so my husband’s mum isn’t really helping with the baby. But I thought to myself “well, at least she cooks for us!”.’

The young mum said when she asked about the dinner her husband said it was ‘probably on the stove’ before her mother-in-law interrupted and said she didn’t save any because ‘we didn’t see you at the dinner table’.

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‘I lost it and yelled that I was feeding my son and of course I was hungry, I was actually starving. She shrugged her shoulders and said it wasn’t her fault I didn’t “show up for dinner” but she knew that I was with my son and hadn’t eaten a thing.’

Her husband asked her not to ‘raise her voice’ before it spiralled into a heated argument between the trio. 

‘I went inside the bedroom, packed a small bag for me and my son, called my brother to come take me to mum’s house and my husband blew up at me as I was making my way out,’ she said, adding that she was labelled ‘childish’ by the pair.

The mum admitted her husband has been calling her ‘non-stop’, demanding she return and sending her angry messages, calling her ‘nuts’. After she sent him pictures of their son, he sent her pictures of him and his mum cooking dinner together. 

The mum asked the platform if she was ‘in the wrong’ and many mums flooded her with support while others said she should stop keeping her son from his dad.

Relationship expert reveals how to solve disputes as a couple

Australian relationship expert Samantha Jayne told Daily Mail Australia the best way to resolve issues is with ‘three simple words’.

‘By saying “I hear you”, it’s amazing how quickly the other person calms down,’ she explained.

‘Often in relationships there is a lack of listening, so for a person to hear that their argument is being heard, it gives them a sense of relief.’

While listening is a great way to make a start on resolving issues, the point is mute if you can’t see where the other person is coming from.

‘It’s better to respond, rather than react,’ Samantha said.

‘Responding means looking at the problem from their point of view and have empathy to where they’re coming from.

‘Reacting to a situation is a sure fire way of breaking up, because it means you’re emotionally charged and coming at the problem with hostility.’

Instead of getting offended at what your partner is trying to say, respond with “what I’m hearing is”.

Often we don’t give the other person a chance to clarify what they mean.

By stating what you think they are saying, they have a chance to correct it. 

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The mum and her five-week-old son moved to her mothers house after the event (stock image)

The mum and her five-week-old son moved to her mothers house after the event (stock image)

‘Breastfeeding while on an empty stomach. That’s like going into debt. There should’ve been heaping mounds of food waiting for you,’ one wrote.

‘Your mother-in-law doesn’t care about you. Tell you husband to start supporting you instead of turning into a baby for his mother to coddle,’ another added.

‘Sounds like he’s married to his mum and you’re the other woman,’ another said.

To those who said she shouldn’t have left, she said stood firm and said she will remain at her mother’s and be ‘pampered and treated like a princess’.

‘I couldn’t get this treatment in my own home,’ she wrote.

‘As for my husband, he can come over to mum’s house if he wants to see his son so badly but I doubt he’ll do it since he’s a very prideful person and this might hurt his ego.’

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