Singles reveal their turn-offs and deal breakers and when to tell a date they’ve given you the ick

Should you tell a date if you have the ‘ick’? Singles reveal all – and list the petty deal breakers that immediately turn them off a partner

  • Singletons are debating whether you should tell a date if they give you the ‘ick’
  • Relationship coach Louanne Ward asked followers if ‘icks’ are deal breakers
  • Many said they could overlook small turn offs like leaving sock around the house
  • But said things like being rude to waitstaff can be indicative of bigger problems 
  • They also revealed their biggest turn off including bad hygiene and eating habits

From calling their parents ‘mummy and papa’ to chewing with their mouth open and ‘lacking boundaries’ when going to the toilet, Australian singletons are sharing their biggest relationship ‘icks’ and whether they can look past them. 

In a post to the She Said He Said Facebook group relationship expert Louanne Ward asked members what their icks – minor gripes that are an immediate turn off – are.

The question sparked a lively discussion among men and women with many saying they could look past small turn offs like constant fidgeting but would end a relationship over something ‘bigger’ like constantly interrupting in a conversation. 

Australian singletons have revealed their biggest 'icks' in a relationship and which turn offs are deal breakers, and argue over whether or not to tell a date they've given them the 'ick'

Australian singletons have revealed their biggest ‘icks’ in a relationship and which turn offs are deal breakers, and argue over whether or not to tell a date they’ve given them the ‘ick’ 

In a post to Facebook relationship expert Louanne Ward (pictured) asked members: 'What are your ick and can you look past them or do they end up being deal breakers?'

In a post to Facebook relationship expert Louanne Ward (pictured) asked members: ‘What are your ick and can you look past them or do they end up being deal breakers?’

Louanne said common ‘icks’ she heard from clients include picking teeth at the table, mouth-open chewing, snoring, a man who shaves his armpits and a woman who calls people ‘dude’. 

‘Please stop flipping bar coasters around and around,’ one woman added. 

‘And if it’s not bar coasters, it’s pens clicking on and off, or rocking on the chair,’ Louanne agreed. 

Louanne said 'icks' she had heard about from client include women calling people 'dude' and men who shave their armpits

Other small things people said turn them off were dates chewing with their mouth open, fidgeting and being messy eaters

People shared their hilarious ‘icks’ they’ve experienced on dates from men shaving their armpits to people not chewing with their mouth closed (stock images)

Single people share their biggest ‘icks’, turn offs and deal breakers

  • ‘He had no bathroom etiquette, despite me requesting repeatedly not to do his toileting in front of me, not to enter the bathroom when the door is shut and not to facetime me while he was on the loo.’
  • ‘She chews with her mouth open.’ 
  • ‘Being rude to waitstaff.’ 
  • ‘Leaving socks around or eating food after their use-by date.’ 
  • ‘If I end up wearing more food on a dinner date than my companion actually ingested.’
  • ‘He snores.’ 
  • ‘He picks his teeth at the table.’ 
  • ‘Chewing with their mouth open or calling their parents mummy/pappa.’ 
  • ‘Bad hygiene and grooming.’ 
  • ‘He would turn up to dinner parties without shoes on and go MIA for a day when he went to get milk from the corner store.’ 
  • ‘She calls people Dude.’ 
  • ‘Constant belching and farting.’ 
  • ‘Mansplaining.’  
  • ‘Telling too many white lies.’ 
  • ‘His habit of constantly needing to make a noise, either by tapping knives and forks on a plate or strumming fingers on tables, whistling.’ 
  • ‘He shaves his armpits.’ 
  • ‘Bad eating habits.’ 

Source: He Said She Said/Facebook 

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‘Bad hygiene and grooming would definitely be on the top,’ a second person admitted.  

‘Bad eating habits are my ICK,’ wrote a third. 

What is an ‘ick’? 

‘The ick’, much discussed on TikTok and Instagram lately, is where attraction to a current or potential partner is suddenly flipped to a feeling of disgust.

It’s often triggered in an instant, social media users say, by witnessing some kind of turn-off – a bad dance move, a grating laugh, or an off-putting eating style.

Source: University of South Queensland

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Another shared an unusual turn-off she sometimes sees when swiping on dating apps. 

‘Well I think my biggest ‘ick’ is photos of men with birds (the feathered types) on their heads,’ they said. 

The relationship coach also told of a time she dated a man who had ‘no bathroom etiquette’. 

‘Despite me requesting repeatedly not to do his toileting in front of me, not to enter the bathroom when the door is shut and not to facetime me while he was on the loo…. It gave me the s***s after a while (pardon the pun),’ she laughed. 

One woman said the decision to end a relationship ‘totally depends on the ick’ and that she can overlook small things. 

‘If it’s something small like chewing with their mouth open or calling their parents mummy/papa then you can train it away,’ she wrote. 

‘If it’s something more ‘severe’ like constantly interrupting or a tendency to mansplain then I am getting the heck out of there.’ 

Louanne recalled seeing a client who was ‘deeply in love’ with a man for his ‘free spirit’ but his small ‘icks’ turned out to be a sign of lacking respect.

‘After a while, she felt him turning up to dinner parties without shoes on and going MIA for a day when he went to get milk from the corner store was actually a lack of respect,’ she said. 

‘The ick of not wearing shoes…. grew into a much deeper issue.’ 

One singleton said they can ‘tolerate’ ‘icks’ except for when their date is a messy eater and that they watch out for ‘signs of their character’. 

‘How do they treat waitstaff? Do their actions match their words? Do they tell ‘little white lies’ very often?,’ she said. 

Many said while small 'icks' can be overlooked major turn offs and deal breakers should be discussed in a relationship

Many said while small ‘icks’ can be overlooked major turn offs and deal breakers should be discussed in a relationship

‘Yes, there are red flags when dating but that’s not all I look for because there are also green flags,’ she added.

Many said while small icks can be overlooked major turn offs and deal breakers should be discussed in a relationship.  

‘I like that we are not perfect. I don’t want to be exactly the same as my love. If I have non-negotiables and she will have them too; then that’s a conversation to have,’ one man said. 

‘Do I tell them? Depends how long, and how well, we’ve known each other. Two or three dates? No. I’d just say we’re incompatible. Longer term – yes,’ another replied. 

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