The very common five-word sentence that’s a MASSIVE red flag on a date: ‘It’s basically a lie if they say this’
- Dating expert Louanne Ward has revealed the sentence singles shouldn’t say
- In a video she advised to not say the words ‘I don’t have any expectations’
- This can be deemed as ‘a bit of a lie’ and an ‘orange flag’ when dating
A leading dating expert and matchmaker has revealed one sentence singles should stop saying if they want to find their perfect match.
She said this statement is ‘a bit of a lie’ and an ‘orange flag’ when dating.
‘These little statements people make, and how they’re perceived, could be different to what you actually mean,’ she said in the video.
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Louanne Ward, from Perth, Western Australia, (pictured) shared a video online explaining why singles should avoid telling others they have ‘no expectations’
‘These little statements people make, and how they’re perceived, could be different to what you actually mean,’ Ms Ward said in a video posted on Facebook
On Facebook, Ms Ward questioned if it’s possible for someone to date without any expectations, and if there’s a ‘hidden meaning’ that could be an ‘orange flag’.
‘These little lies aren’t big red flags but they are certainly orange flags and can give you an insight into where your date is at emotionally and if they are wasting your time,’ she said.
Particularly with online dating, singles usually have a bare minimum expectation that their date will look like their photos, be who they say they are and arrive to the first date on time.
‘When you hear this what it probably means is, “I’ve been rejected so many times [and] I don’t hold out any hope that this is going to work”,’ she said.
‘You’re probably dealing with someone who’s quite a jaded dater and they’re never that fun to hang out with.’
She also warned your date may have no intensions of wanting a relationship.
In the comments other singles had conflicting opinions about Ms Ward’s advice.
‘We date to connect with someone! To me that’s an expectation, to say otherwise might label you as a player,’ one man wrote.
But Ms Ward replied: ‘Half the joy in meeting someone new is the expectation that it might work out!’
Another person said: ‘Depends on what stage you are in dating. First meeting I think it would be unrealistic to expect anything more than liking having fun and being interested in getting to know each other.’
Ms Ward said: ‘I couldn’t agree more and the expectation of having fun, being treated respectfully and enjoying new opportunities is keeping expectations positive and realistic.’
Particularly with online dating, singles usually have a bare minimum expectation that their date will look like their photos, be who they say they are and arrive to the first date on time (stock image)
Earlier this month in another video, Ms Ward revealed the most common five words single women should stop saying if they want to pursue a relationship.
‘Every time you say “I don’t need a man”, what you’re doing is you’re putting out there exactly what you’re attracting back,’ she said.
Ms Ward said when most men hear these words, they ‘automatically begin to lose interest’.
The statement is usually common among women who are independent, confident and successful.
‘It’s true, you don’t need a man; You earn your own money, you can support yourself, you’ve got your own life, you’re happy,’ Ms Ward said in the video.
‘You might not need a man, but you actually need all the things a man can give you – the affection, the support, the love, the laughter, the sex, the caring.’
Ms Ward dubbed the statement as a ‘ridiculous thing to say’ as there’s ‘no shame’ in needing a man to fulfill your needs.
‘You might not need a man, but you actually need all the things a man can give you – the affection, the support, the love, the laughter, the sex, the caring,’ Ms Ward said
‘You do need him for all the things he can give you,’ she said.
‘Start being brave enough to say: ‘Actually I do need a man for all of the things that I can’t give myself’.
‘There’s no shame in having a need, which is very different than being needy.’
The video received a flood of attention online and many agreed with Ms Ward’s advice.
‘Very well said,’ one person wrote, another added: ‘Yes it’s the same for the other sex as well. We need all the same things.’
‘You actually need masculine energy from a man as well,’ a third added.
‘UNSEXY’ MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE
1. Taking one hour to put make-up on to go for Sunday breakfast
2. Saying ‘I don’t need a man’
3. Too much eagerness texting too frequently
4. Being over-sensitive and crying as a strategy
5. Saying ‘You could be an axe murderer or a rapist, for all I know’
‘UNSEXY’ MISTAKES MEN MAKE
1. Bitching about an ex or other women
2. Constantly talking about yourself without asking questions
3. Setting up a date via a text message
4. Telling women it’s easier for them than it is for a man
5. Not making an equal effort in presentation